Cold War Repair 007: Shame and the Cold War — When Silence Becomes the Wall of Self-Protection
If anger is the surface emotion of the cold war, then shame is the deep-seated feeling hidden beneath anger that drives cold war behavior. Shame is one of the most destructive of…
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If anger is the surface emotion of the cold war, then shame is the deep-seated feeling hidden beneath anger that drives cold war behavior. Shame is one of the most destructive of…
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